Femme Flavor

Last night, I stumbled upon something that caused me a mix of several unsavory emotions. I immediately went to a place of fear and shut myself off to the future, based on this small bit of data about which I know very little. I reached out to a support with my immediate, heated, hurting reaction, and tried to put it...

I am having a serious Eeyore moment, so y’all are just gonna have to bear with me. Or stop reading here. I personally wouldn’t blame you. I won’t speak for human beings in general, but I know that for me, there comes a point during any ongoing thing I do that is good for me at which I begin having...

Sometimes I am cruising along on a very specific train of thought when I draft a post in my mind. That was the case for my “letting go of expectations” post, and yet… There was a very important bit that completely escaped me when I was writing it, and which came to mind immediately after publishing. I wonder if the...

I’ve been subscribed to Tiny Buddha for a few years now. One concept Lori often addresses and which I have always found both enticing and elusive is mindfulness. The practice of being present in each moment as it occurs runs against so much of what many of us are raised to do – we have to plan for the future,...

So, I’ve had my first failure to post within the 24 hour period of a calendar day. BUT, I had good reason, as Melissa is visiting and we, per usual, lost track of time and rushed out the door to Ian Harvie’s amazingly funny show, Superhero, at Portland Stage. We followed it with nibbles and beverages with some great friends,...

I imagine there are a lot of reasons people are perfectionists. I don’t even pretend to know all of why I am, but I do know that it causes me no end of misery; my constant self-flagellation, my fears of judgment from others, the ever-present buzz of anxiety that frequently spikes and can be debilitating and prevent me from even...

First, let me state that I meant to lay down for about an hour after work because I was exhausted from the stress of the day and the release of some anxiety I’ve been carrying and the lack of sleep over the last several nights. Three hours later, I came to. So I’m feeling quite awake and productive, have done...

Thursdays are my stupid day at work and I typically don’t take a lunch break; I will allow myself to leave my desk for coffee, but only go as far as the kitchen down the hall. So between that and the fact that the coworker who distributes the mail just said, “Who’s on transferred records today? Whoever it is, I’m...

Last year, my best friend Melissa and I performed a ritual to welcome the new year, and let go of the previous one. It involved choosing four things we wanted to let go of in our lives and scattering them to the four elements. It was a very powerful and moving experience, one of my favorite moments with her in...